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    Having trouble with Prof.

    Hello all,
    I am new here but figured this would get me out into the community. I too am experiencing the issues with women who do not want men in the profession. I have one teacher in particular that seems to just go after me.
    A little background on me. I am 30 years old, been in the military for 12 years. I got injured in Iraq so I am looking at nursing as my new profession. ( I am already in the program) And I am a full time single father.
    So what gets me is that this prof. continuously makes exceptions for the mothers in the class but goes out of her way to slam me. I am not the best student but I challenge anyone to carry my load.
    The other day I had to take my daughter to the emergency room because she was dehydrated fro the flu. Well needless to say I missed class. So the this Prof comes to me and tells me that I have used up my one excused absence and that I cant have another. So I asked her what I should do if my son gets sich and her responce was "Dont let it happen" This same woman is helping out the two pregnant girls in the class and giving them all the assistance they need.
    This smae prof made statements last semeter that the inducton of men into the profession has made salaries go up.
    So my question is: Am I going to see alot of this type of discrimination for disgruntled women in this porfession.
    I should also say that she feels that I am a type A personality and that I am an "overbearing male"

    ~Adam

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    Re: Having trouble with Prof.

    Hello Adam,

    Gender discrimination is a reality both in nursing school and the field depending on where you work. Sometimes it is subtle, sometimes it is blatant. We have discussed it on another thread here:

    http://www.nursingdiscussions.com/gender

    If this professor gives you a hard time about the missing a class issue, I'd be ready to appeal it and give specific examples of other students that are being treated more leniently.

    You might want to bring the issue to the attention of the Dean privately. Tell her this has become an issue and before it escalates further, you want to tell her exactly what the situation is.

    Are there other guys in your classes or the school? Would be interesting to see if they've had similar experiences.

    Keep in mind also, that nursing instructors can be notoriously harsh on students, even when there is no apparent need or reason for it.

    It's part of the "nursing school" experience where they try to weed out as many "unfit" nurses as they can.

    Don't take it too personally, but to don't let yourself be abused either.

    Andrew Lopez, RN
    http://www.4nursingstudents.com

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    Re: Having trouble with Prof.

    Thanks for the advice and please excuse all the typo's. It is definately nice to see that I am not imagining this attitude.
    ~Adam

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    I am a female nurse and have witnessed discrimination against male nurses, for what reason I don't know. This professor sounds like one of those lunatic feminists who simply hates men, period. It most certainly is not true that the presence of men is driving up nurses' salaries. Where does she get that, and even if it were true, what is she saying? That nursing is better off remaining an enclave of all female workers so that salaries can be kept low? She sounds like an idiot. Who cares if you are an overbearing, type A? Women have been known to have those personality types, too. If the situation really is out of control, I, too, would go over her head. She may be a professor but she is not entitled to take her personal prejudices out on you or anyone else. I assume you are paying the same tuition, through whatever sources, as are the females in class. You are entitled to the same level of respect and understanding as anyone else.

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    It is good to hear from you on this. I know she is in the extreme minority and my other prof's seem to really support me being a single parent. I think this woman just hates men. If it continues though I may go to the dean. I do have one thing on my side, my God-mother is in charge of the women's health for the whole state, so she might weild some power if I need it.

    Never hurts to have someone on your side!!!!!

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    I’m in school right now and I have to say I haven't experienced any discrimination at all. I kind of feel one of my instructors went out of her way to make sure I didn't feel discriminated. This was nice and all, but I don't expect different treatment whether positive or negative.

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    Nursing requires dedication and attention to details. Sometimes, in a profession that has been dominated by one group of people for a long period of time will require you to demonstrate the ability to be better than your classmates.Why? To earn respect or show that you are not in the profession because you think its easier than medical school. Because your female counterparts have a longer history or affinity to the profession. I commend you on being a single parent and wanting to join the ranks of Nursing. However,understand the sacrifices involved to break into a traditionally female profession, as women who have been pionneers in male dominated professions know the challenges involved in earning the respect of their teachers and peers. It is a baptism by fire, that if you succeed leaves you changed for the rest of your life.Don't give up. I remember a teacher who told me at the beggining of my semester that she would fail me in my Maternal Child rotation, simply because I didn't have a uterus :eek: . I got past her and went on to get my diploma and pursue higher education. I realize now that she was only there to challenge my resolve to be what I wanted to be. Good Luck.

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    I have the same problem. I got sick and tired of being abused for trying to help people (I was a high school principal). I had been around medicine before and thought that nursing would be a good way to make a difference in the world. I too am supporting my family (2 kids and a wife). One instructor last semester disliked me from day one...why I do not know. She actually made some nasty comments about me. I thought they were just to my face. Now I find out she put them in writing as another woman is after my hide...I have 80 and 90 % in all of my science and humanities courses. My marks are much lower in the nursing ones. It is irritating because I already have a BA. a B.Sc. and a Masters degree. I am trying to be accomodating Heck I'd lick their boots if I had to (you just gotta do what ya gotta do so you can get out there and do something meaningful). I have even shown female class members how to do the work in our clinical setting (quietly and only at their request). But somehow I'm the loser. I just don't get it.

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    Glad to read of your success afrigger01. Good to read that you made an impact on that person. Give her something to think about.

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    Such an inspiring story!

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