Marriage Question..

Just wondering- want to get some unbiased perspective here:

My husband of 7 years has a HORRIBLE snoring problem that keeps me awake most nights I have to sleep with him. Even the highest decibel earplugs do not block it out. He has been diagnosed with sleep apnea in the past, and wore a CPAP for a while. He got better when he lost a little weight, so he didn't need the CPAP anymore. Well, he has gained the weight back, so the snoring is back. I told him if he can't lose weight to make it improve, then he needs to go back on the CPAP- for his health & my sanity. He told me he absolutely will not wear the CPAP, no matter what. He said he would rather divorce than wear that thing again. I am speechless. What do you guys think of this? Is he being unreasonable???

Beyond unreasonable! :rolleyes:

Of course, the wt. loss is for his own good. The sleep apnea is another related thing. However, has he tried those breathing strips?

I also think he is being unreasonable. My husband had a fatal heart attack. Looking back on it, I realized that he obviously had sleep apnea. I wish he had a CPAP machine to use, maybe he would still be around today.

My wife can say some woppers sometimes. I try not to dwell on the not so kind words. With that said, I really wish your husband would not have used that word... Divorce, rather than CPAP. Please, encourage him to lose weight for his health, as well as his marriage.

Thanks for you input, everyone. We talked about it today after we both calmed down, and he apologized for using the "D" word, and said that's the last thing he wants... he agreed to start a diet/exercise program with me, and if he hasn't lost enough weight to alleviate the snoring in a couple months, he said he will try the cpap again.

Why don't you tape record the snoring and play it for him.Then he will really be aware of the NOISE.
He's selfish if he does not respect your logical wishes.
I hope he goes back to the C-pap and lose weight.
Good luck

It'll be 7 years in November- I have taped him before, so he knows how loud it gets. He is doing well with trying to lose weight- has lost 5 lbs in the last couple weeks. It hasn't stopped the snoring yet, but it's a start.

AmandaWIRN wrote:It'll be 7 years in November- I have taped him before, so he knows how loud it gets. He is doing well with trying to lose weight- has lost 5 lbs in the last couple weeks. It hasn't stopped the snoring yet, but it's a start.

Maybe T&A (Tonsils/Adenoids) procedure?

SoldierNurse wrote:Maybe T&A (Tonsils/Adenoids) procedure?

He had them out when he was a kid.....

I had developed a serious snoring problem according to my wife. But when I had my MI a couple of years ago and got cathed and stents put in. My snoring promptly stopped.

My husband snores so loud that you'd swear there was a whole forest of lumberjacks working in our bedroom. He is overweight, pre-diabetic and a has LVH. Basically a fatal heart attack waiting to happen ( and the cardiologist has told him so ) Is he being selfish yeah but on the other hand when I was at the lowest point in my life struggling with addiction/depression and recovery he stood by me side by side, shoulder against the world. I guess I can tolerate the snoring.

He is loyal, hard working and gave me a great son. I worry about his health but I cannot make him want to change that. I told him I was not going to nag him anymore about the snoring/health diet issue so that he could enjoy the time he has left in world. Then hand in hand We went and got some Life insurance. interesting is that as soon as I stopped nagging him he started doing the things the doctors were telling him. (Go Figure)

Anyways I read somewhere that there is a new CPAP device that is far less bulky than the old ones. Just a small cup that fits over the nose and a head strap - no big Darth Vader Mask . You might want to look into that.

Peace and Namaste

Hppy

what a question!!!! but really a serious and complicated problem both for marriage and health!hope the issue is already solved by now=)