Nurses, what are your Burial Beliefs

11 posts · started Feb 1, 2011

Teeituptom Feb 1, 2011, 4:02 PM
Do you want the full treatment, embalming, preservation, casket, concrete vault or tomb.
Do your prefer cremation
Do you prefer having your remains entombed in concrete, and sank in the ocean as part of a reef building project.
Do you prefer the cryogenic sciences.
Do you prefer something more natural.
Do prefer having some of remains turned into diamonds
Do you prefer all natural

I prefer all natural. Just dig a deep hole and throw me in. I prefer being clothed though. and placed face up, would be more comfortable. I would also like my Golf clubs, and bag and balls with me also. Just in case. I want no ceremony. No Wake. No Head stone. Maybe a Sand trap to mark where I am buried. But that is all.

What are your thoughtd
cougarnurse Feb 1, 2011, 4:10 PM
I am mixed on this.

Do remember: You may not want a wake, but it is often-times good for the family as a closure.

There was a case out here, where someone died, and was set out on the curb. Not sure if it was murder, but there may be something in the town/village/city codes about being stuck in a sand trap.
Teeituptom Feb 15, 2011, 10:31 AM
I did arrange for a small part of me to be carbonized and turned into a lab created diamond for a pendant for my wife to wear. or if she wants to sell. If she wants to be rid of me.
Ricu Feb 15, 2011, 2:09 PM
Very interesting topic, Tom. My own preference would be no embalming and cremation once anything useful was recovered, because I am an organ donor. As Cat pointed out, traditions of remembering the dead are important for the living so I defer to my loved ones wishes and hope they don't waste a lot of money. While on the subject, I'd like to make a plea here for everyone to in their lifetime, work on making things right with each other. Too many people leave this world not having made peace and it's very sad to witness the surfacing of unresolved pain and bitterness at funerals.
hppygr8ful Feb 15, 2011, 4:55 PM
I favor being wrapped in linen no embalming - plant on a bluff over looking the ocean and put a laurel tree over my grave. Simple ceremony friends and family no tears for me please.
cougarnurse Feb 15, 2011, 5:00 PM
Just read not to long ago that some place out west allows locals to have 'do it yourself' cremations.

I wish I could find that article.....
cougarnurse Feb 15, 2011, 5:06 PM
This may be a bit off subject, but I found it. Only could copy part of the story. http://74.6.117.48/search/srpcache?ei=UTF-8&p=Cremation+out+in+CO&fr=yfp-t-312&u=http://cc.bingj.com/cache.aspx?q=Cremation+out+in+CO&d=27021898722574979&mkt=en-US&setlang=en-US&w=1d127c7f,6433c84b&icp=1&.intl=us&sig=mxq0gi5pjbavz7kcrnY_qQ----

Belinda Ellis' farewell went as she wanted. One by one, her family placed juniper boughs and logs about her body, covered in red cloth atop a rectangular steel grate inside a brick-lined hearth. With a torch, her husband lit the fire that consumed her, sending billows of smoke into the blue-gray sky of dawn.

When the smoke subsided, a triangle-shaped flame flickered inside the circle of mourners, heavily-dressed and huddling against zero-degree weather.

"Mommy, you mean the world to me and it's hard to live without you," called out Ellis' weeping daughter, Brandi, 18. "It's hard to breathe, it's hard to see and it's hard to think about anything but you."

The outdoor funeral pyre in this southern Colorado mountain town is unique. Funeral and cremation industry officials say they are unaware of any other place in the nation that conducts open-air cremations for people regardless of religion. A Buddhist temple in Red Feather Lakes, Colo., conducts a few funeral pyres, but only for its members.

Ancient Vikings lit funeral pyres to honor their dead, and it is accepted practice among Buddhist and Hindu religions. But the practice is largely taboo in the U.S.

The pyre harkens to references in the Christian and Hebrew Bibles equating rising smoke with the ascent of the soul, said David Weddle, a religion professor at Colorado College. It can be seen as honoring a natural cycle, reducing the body to ash and the elements of which it is composed. It also can be a protest against traditional funerals, which some view as a denial of death, Weddle said.

Ellis' ceremony and others seem somehow fitting for Crestone, home to an eclectic mix of spiritual and religious groups that include Zen and Tibetan Buddhists and Carmelites, said Stephanie Gaines, director of the nondenominational Crestone End of Life Project, the volunteer group that performs the cremations.

While Belinda Ellis "did not have a religious bone in her body," according to her husband, Randy Ellis, she had attended a Crestone funeral pyre and told her family it was what she wanted. Ellis, 48, died of a massive heart attack Jan. 9 and was cremated three days later.

Bob Biggins, spokesman and former president of the National Funeral Directors Association, applauded the practice.

"As a culture, we need to say goodbye," Biggins said. "And I think watching some of the things that this organization is doing for their community, the word that comes to my mind is, `Hooray!' Because they're encouraging people to bear witness."

The Crestone End of Life Project conducted its first open-air cremation in January 2008 and has performed 18 since. Each pending cremation sets in motion phone calls to the Saguache County Sheriff's Office, the fire department and the coroner. State and local agencies have given permits to the group to conduct the cremations.

Some residents initially opposed the idea, worried about pollution, smells and heavy traffic. The group addressed every worry, said project director Gaines.
Ricu Feb 16, 2011, 1:14 PM
cougarnurse wrote:This may be a bit off subject, but I found it. Only could copy part of the story. http://74.6.117.48/search/srpcache?ei=UTF-8&p=Cremation+out+in+CO&fr=yfp-t-312&u=http://cc.bingj.com/cache.aspx?q=Cremation+out+in+CO&d=27021898722574979&mkt=en-US&setlang=en-US&w=1d127c7f,6433c84b&icp=1&.intl=us&sig=mxq0gi5pjbavz7kcrnY_qQ----

Belinda Ellis' farewell went as she wanted. One by one, her family placed juniper boughs and logs about her body, covered in red cloth atop a rectangular steel grate inside a brick-lined hearth. With a torch, her husband lit the fire that consumed her, sending billows of smoke into the blue-gray sky of dawn.

When the smoke subsided, a triangle-shaped flame flickered inside the circle of mourners, heavily-dressed and huddling against zero-degree weather.

"Mommy, you mean the world to me and it's hard to live without you," called out Ellis' weeping daughter, Brandi, 18. "It's hard to breathe, it's hard to see and it's hard to think about anything but you."

The outdoor funeral pyre in this southern Colorado mountain town is unique. Funeral and cremation industry officials say they are unaware of any other place in the nation that conducts open-air cremations for people regardless of religion. A Buddhist temple in Red Feather Lakes, Colo., conducts a few funeral pyres, but only for its members.

Ancient Vikings lit funeral pyres to honor their dead, and it is accepted practice among Buddhist and Hindu religions. But the practice is largely taboo in the U.S.

The pyre harkens to references in the Christian and Hebrew Bibles equating rising smoke with the ascent of the soul, said David Weddle, a religion professor at Colorado College. It can be seen as honoring a natural cycle, reducing the body to ash and the elements of which it is composed. It also can be a protest against traditional funerals, which some view as a denial of death, Weddle said.

Ellis' ceremony and others seem somehow fitting for Crestone, home to an eclectic mix of spiritual and religious groups that include Zen and Tibetan Buddhists and Carmelites, said Stephanie Gaines, director of the nondenominational Crestone End of Life Project, the volunteer group that performs the cremations.

While Belinda Ellis "did not have a religious bone in her body," according to her husband, Randy Ellis, she had attended a Crestone funeral pyre and told her family it was what she wanted. Ellis, 48, died of a massive heart attack Jan. 9 and was cremated three days later.

Bob Biggins, spokesman and former president of the National Funeral Directors Association, applauded the practice.

"As a culture, we need to say goodbye," Biggins said. "And I think watching some of the things that this organization is doing for their community, the word that comes to my mind is, `Hooray!' Because they're encouraging people to bear witness."

The Crestone End of Life Project conducted its first open-air cremation in January 2008 and has performed 18 since. Each pending cremation sets in motion phone calls to the Saguache County Sheriff's Office, the fire department and the coroner. State and local agencies have given permits to the group to conduct the cremations.

Some residents initially opposed the idea, worried about pollution, smells and heavy traffic. The group addressed every worry, said project director Gaines.

To quote Spock, "Fascinating."
Grandma-RN Feb 17, 2011, 2:36 PM
My children knows what I want. What I do not want is those there just for sight seeing. I want to be buried either with my parents or have a place for where my children will rest one day not too soon I pray.

There must be lively music and Gospel songs. No repast. Please eat before you arrive.